The short answer
01 · The source
Write down a recent difficult moment. What did the manager say or do? What work was due, how much time was available, and what help was missing?
02 · The size
A hard relationship and a routine you cannot keep up with feel much the same. They can also happen at once. Compare real events before you pin the whole thing on one cause.
03 · The move
If it feels safe, ask which work should move when a rush job lands. Or agree a time after which messages can wait. Then watch whether the deal holds.
Separate behaviour from conditions
Write down a recent difficult moment. What did the manager say or do? What work was due, how much time was available, and what help was missing?
Look for differences. Does the same task feel fine with someone else? Does the relationship improve when priorities are clear? These are questions to look into, not proof that either person is at fault.
Describe actions, not labels, when you raise it. Then the other person can see which event or expectation needs work.
One case
Say your manager sends requests late in the day. Behind it could be unclear deadlines, too much work, or a hope that you stay free every evening. Naming that hope makes the talk more exact.
Ask for one observable change
If it feels safe, ask which work should move when a rush job lands. Or agree a time after which messages can wait. Then watch whether the deal holds.
Do not turn this into blaming yourself for bullying, unfair treatment or unsafe conditions. Get proper support when those are present. Astrofluence can help you look at what the job needs. It cannot judge someone else’s motives or settle a dispute.